Diego Rayle

Infidelity in marriage are painful ways to break a great marriage. Marriage vows promised trust and love. Infidelity breaks those vows and causes hurt and pain.What is the source of all this pain? Look at the lives of Sue and Joe as they experience the pain of infidelity.They knew each other before ever starting school together. Their mothers were best friends. Joe was a year older and they began dating when Sue was a high school junior. College was not a difficult choice for Sue, she followed Joe and during her sophomore year, he proposed. They are parents of three children.There were some money problems as the children grew up and Joe said he could work late to help bring more money home. The money problems did not seem to improve even though Joe was rarely home. When Sue brought this up, Joe became very angry and left the house. He did not answer phone calls for several days.After a time to cool off, Joe calls Sue and apologizes for the infidelities. During the call, he also admits that the reason there is no extra money is that he has been involved with someone else. He suggests that he and Sue should find a counselor and try to reconcile.Sue was heartbroken and unsure that she would ever be able to forgive Joe. The person she had known for most of her life was not the man she thought he had been. She had trusted with her deepest secrets had betrayed her and she was deeply hurt.We all love stories to end happily, however this one may end that way. These deep hurts do not go away overnight. Divorce often follows such mistrust.Even marriages where couples decide to remain together find very difficult days as emotions sometimes get the best of them. It only take one time for Joe to have some unexplained time and Sue feels doubt. Joe also knows that there is always plan "B."Somewhere along the way, friends and families may find out what has happened. They too may feel the hurt and friendships may even be broken.If divorce ensues, children are often torn between the parents. When one parent relocates to a new city, visitation becomes more limited. Many times they see the parent they do not live with only one or two times yearly at most. Children are pained by the lack of quality time spent with the parent. Parents loose the close contact they once had with their children.The pain continues. Even if Sue finds someone else with whom to spend the rest of her life, Joe's infidelity can continue to haunt the new relationship. She may fear sharing feelings since her trust was broken earlier.Joe finds that his income, which was already being stretched thin, is now being split between his new household and that of his former family. He is paying an expensive price for his marital infidelity. He also finds that he has difficulty with trust. It is not that he cannot trust others. Joe has difficulty trusting himself.